Are your relationships just how you always dreamt they would be? No Monday morning blues on the way into work, no growling at family, friends and that special person who lights up your life last thing at night and every morning when you wake. Do you have a life full of good fortune, pleasure, contentment and joy? Or am I totally off the mark?
Or is it your reality that the people in your life are driving you crazy? Is your job boring and full of stress, is the boss grumpy and never content with your hard work or effort? Are your friends disrespectful of you, do they take your feelings into consideration, do they judge and criticise you? Your family, do they take you for granted, no please or thank you.. after all the world does revolve around them.. Right!?
The thing is, have you ever truly sat down and thought about what it is that makes you truly happy, is it the job of the people around you, or is it your responsibility to bring light into your life and joy into your heart?
The way I see it is that no matter how hard you try to change someone the truth is you can't and the harder you try the worse things will get. While you are wasting hours, days, months even years for someone else to change, your self-esteem will get lower and the hope of happiness will be pushed even further from your reach. If your happiness depends solely on the actions of others, then sadly you have become a victim, you have become dis-empowered, you will have lost your direction and your self-respect. You will become trapped when looking to others for fulfilment, when you should be looking inside yourself.
If you want better relationships with others then it is your behaviour towards them that has to change. After all how can you expect others to respect you when you don't respect yourself. It's never too late to create the life you want, only your limited beliefs stand in the way. Change the messages you are sending out to others and stop being a victim, be strong and take control of your life. People only treat us the way we allow them to treat us.
When you take the first steps in changing your behaviour you set yourself free from the shackles of any poor relationship, whether it is family, friends or work. Change your focus from others to yourself. It's when you change your focus that you will start to feel happier with your life. You become empowered and able to deal more easily with the outside world.
Remember that your life should be filled with more than just one focus. Living your life just focusing on one area is not a great way to feel fulfilled, because if anything should happen, you lose your job or your children move out for example, then your whole life becomes empty.
Spread your wings further and introduce other things into your life. How about finding time to explore new hobbies or resurrect old ones, find time to relax and pamper yourself, join a group and expand your social network and allow time for personal growth. Whatever it is you choose to do, make sure you do it 100%, no half measures. Live each moment to the full and as your confidence flourishes watch the seed of happiness begin to grow.
http://www.pandoralifecoaching.co.uk
If you want better relationships with others then it is your behaviour towards them that has to change. After all how can you expect others to respect you when you don't respect yourself. It's never too late to create the life you want, only your limited beliefs stand in the way. Change the messages you are sending out to others and stop being a victim, be strong and take control of your life. People only treat us the way we allow them to treat us.
When you take the first steps in changing your behaviour you set yourself free from the shackles of any poor relationship, whether it is family, friends or work. Change your focus from others to yourself. It's when you change your focus that you will start to feel happier with your life. You become empowered and able to deal more easily with the outside world.
Remember that your life should be filled with more than just one focus. Living your life just focusing on one area is not a great way to feel fulfilled, because if anything should happen, you lose your job or your children move out for example, then your whole life becomes empty.
Spread your wings further and introduce other things into your life. How about finding time to explore new hobbies or resurrect old ones, find time to relax and pamper yourself, join a group and expand your social network and allow time for personal growth. Whatever it is you choose to do, make sure you do it 100%, no half measures. Live each moment to the full and as your confidence flourishes watch the seed of happiness begin to grow.
http://www.pandoralifecoaching.co.uk
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