The way people treat us are only reflections of the way that we treat ourselves

Are your relationships just how you always dreamt they would be? No Monday morning blues on the way into work, no growling at family, friends and that special person who lights up your life last thing at night and every morning when you wake. Do you have a life full of good fortune, pleasure, contentment and joy? Or am I totally off the mark? 

Or is it your reality that the people in your life are driving you crazy? Is your job boring and full of stress, is the boss grumpy and never content with your hard work or effort? Are your friends disrespectful of you, do they take your feelings into consideration, do they judge and criticise you? Your family, do they take you for granted, no please or thank you.. after all the world does revolve around them.. Right!? 

The thing is, have you ever truly sat down and thought about what it is that makes you truly happy, is it the job of the people around you, or is it your responsibility to bring light into your life and joy into your heart? 

The way I see it is that no matter how hard you try to change someone the truth is you can't and the harder you try the worse things will get. While you are wasting hours, days, months even years for someone else to change, your self-esteem will get lower and the hope of happiness will be pushed even further from your reach. If your happiness depends solely on the actions of others, then sadly you have become a victim, you have become dis-empowered, you will have lost your direction and your self-respect. You will  become trapped when looking to others for fulfilment, when you should be looking inside yourself. 


If you want better relationships with others then it is your behaviour towards them that has to change. After all how can you expect others to respect you when you don't respect yourself. It's never too late to create the life you want, only your limited beliefs stand in the way. Change the messages you are sending out to others and stop being a victim, be strong and take control of your life. People only treat us the way we allow them to treat us.


When you take the first steps in changing your behaviour you set yourself free from the shackles of any poor relationship, whether it is family, friends or work. Change your focus from others to yourself. It's when you change your focus that you will start to feel happier with your life. You become empowered and able to deal more easily with the outside world. 


Remember that your life should be filled with more than just one focus. Living your life just focusing on one area is not a great way to feel fulfilled, because if anything should happen, you lose your job or your children move out for example, then your whole life becomes empty. 


Spread your wings further and introduce other things into your life. How about finding time to explore new hobbies or resurrect old ones, find time to relax and pamper yourself, join a group and expand your social network and allow time for personal growth. Whatever it is you choose to do, make sure you do it 100%, no half measures. Live each moment to the full and as your confidence flourishes watch the seed of happiness begin to grow. 



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Be the star you are!

Being the star you are may need some life changing thought patterns and visions of yourself. Research suggests that almost 70 percent of our daily thoughts are negative and if you are having a bad day then this figure could be higher. It is possible to change these thought patterns with daily lessons. 

Affirmations and visualisations are a very good way to retrain your brain into thinking and believing positive things about yourself. By creating and sending positive messages to ourselves continually it helps banish the negative beliefs we may have about ourselves. This in the long term will help to build your confidence and support positive self image. 

Today is the first day of changing your life forever. 

Affirmations are a great way to boost your confidence and self esteem. Imagination is a very powerful tool and its limits are only those that you put upon yourself. Become aware of your thoughts and how you talk to yourself. If you find that you are belittling yourself or saying something negative then turn it around and replace it with a positive thought. Start your affirmations with ...

• I am ..............
• I can .............
• I will ..............

It doesn't matter how you change your thoughts; sing, shout, write your affirmations as much as you can, feel them, live them, be them.

Visualisations are a great way to back up your affirmations. Try finding a quiet, comfortable place where you can relax without being disturbed. Close your eyes and take deep breaths until you feel totally at ease and then see your success in motion. Picture the scene with the outcome you want to achieve. Seeing yourself being successful in ... work, at home, with your relationship or even in a creative manner. Imagine this success in whatever area it is that you want to succeed. Bring your thoughts to life, feel your confidence growing, hear the praise, see the pleasure. Add colour and sounds and experience the success you so deserve. Live your dream. When you are ready, return to the room and open your eyes.  

Making decisions can sometimes be difficult and this can be due to lack of confidence in our own abilities or not being able to say yes/no in fear of upsetting another. By not being able to make decisions about your life you lose control of it. Taking control of your life is the first step to living the life you want. 

Before you can make a decision you first need to know what your goal is, what do you want? The next question to ask yourself is... How?  

• Take a piece of paper and write down everything you have ever wanted to do, be, see
• Work out how realistic each goal is
• What are the opportunities available to you, do you need further training? if so where?
• Next is to work out a plan of how to get what you want

Keeping a diary can be a great way to keep track of all your achievements. Take a look back though your life and recognise things that you have already been successful at. It doesn't matter if it's something like learning to ride a bike or seeing your family blossom because of your input.  

Sometimes we lose confidence in our abilities and underestimate how successful we truly are. This can be because we have temporarily lost sight of what we want from life and perhaps have been fulfilling other peoples dreams. Reclaim the control of your future and draw a line under the past. 

It's never too late to shine and be the star you are!

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Wow Wednesday AGAIN!

Sorry folks, not been around much this week, but will make up for it I promise.


Last week I attended a webinar with Julie Nelson @ http://www.Aromatiqueessentials.com.au and it's that time again, so at 10.30am GMT I will be attending another class. Join us to see if she pops another tampon style prop up her nose in the name of demonstration.


Julie really does have a talent, she truly knows her stuff, maybe that's why we call her............ Teacher!

Hi people

Just wanted to post something as promised about a webinar I just attended called "Your Scents" on 21/7/2010  http://www.aromatiqueessentials.com.au with Julie Nelson

Firstly, thanks to the IT support that kept the show going, even though I lost connection I think it was down to poor signal and  not any fault of the team. So whooo hoooo!! good work Alex!

This was the first session of a 12 week course focusing on Bergamot and Basil. There were many options for these 2 key ingredients and the possibilities were endless! and to think that I just shove the basil in my sauces, what a waste!! The information was clear and concise with a little bit of arm flinging, lets see if next time she can deliver sitting on them ;) ummm 

Julie gave many alternatives and explained how to use a blend and what health problems responded to the applications. I especially like the interaction between the class-mates who were a bit naughty at times, but all in the best possible taste. I think I was shocked to see Julie snorting, live on air!! but I was comforted by Alex who said if she stated to giggle then we would know it wasn't legal, poise was kept throughout!! 

Julie even mentioned how her potions could help relieve flatulence, So it's offical, the lady that makes funny smells has found a cure! 

I think that the webinar was very informative and packed with information and I will return next week for part 2 (if I'm allowed) 

Well done Julie and fantastic job IT, catch you all next week, big hugs! 

Ooooooo I'm so excited

Hi everyone, I just wanted to share my good news for the day.

Today I have been invited to a webinar that is taking place at 10.30am (UK) at http://aromatiqueessentials.com.au 

Julie Nelson who runs aromantiqueessentionals.com.au has 15 years experience in the use of pure plant extracts which help promote a sense of well being for the body, mind and soul. It is her aim to educate others and revive the knowledge of the medicinal and energetic use of aromatic plants and essential oils, which is truly an holistic professional art and science.

Julie will be giving tips and tricks on how to blend the most fantastic aromas possible with many combinations of oils. With years of making magical potions and creating signature perfumes, she is sure to win your hearts with her creativity.

I will post a full report of my findings... 

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